He forgot about your anniversary, he didn’t greet you and just went to work like it’s just an ordinary day. Then you just can’t let go of the thought that he forgot your anniversary, so you called him at work and just dumped everything on him including all the pent-up frustrations you’ve been going through at work too.
He shouted back and you slammed the phone back on its cradle. You had a bad day all day and just can’t wait to get home and say everything to his face and maybe even slap him.
Yes, he slipped up big time!So, you went home tired but still full of anger. You are furiously waiting for him to open the door and get inside the house so you can start throwing away all the things that were bothering you all day. You are mad, and he came in mad too.
The fight continued on to the bedroom, you both started undressing while still shouting at each other, then suddenly he looked at you. You looked at him too and you both paused. Both standing naked, mad but now looking at each other.
We all know what happened next.
Make-up sex is definitely wild and so gratifying sex. People who experienced it after a terrible fight said that it is so intense that everything is just forgotten. The sex is amazingly wild and awesomely enjoyable sex.
Experts call it the ‘arousal transfer’. It is explained as the excitement in make-up sex is the transfer of the arousal state from one situation to another. When the couple’s stimulus is excited.
Arousal Transfer is expressed in the bridge experiment done in 1974 by Donald Dutton and Arthur Aron, where, male passersby were contacted either on a fear-arousing suspension bridge or a non-fear-arousing bridge by an attractive woman who asked them to fill out survey questions. Sexual arousal toward the woman was greater with the men on the fear-arousing bridge.
So how good is sex after a big fight? It is amazing! It is out of this world! And that amazing sex after a fight is due to the change in mood and the happiness of reconciliation with the partner, but it is also the result of arousal transfer from the fight to the sex. The unpleasant, bitter fight with the partner did create a gap between the two and threatened the existence of the relationship and the make-up sex then reconnects the bond in a very tangible manner, and yes, a very sexy manner too.
People’s emotions are very dynamic and contagious. It can easily spread from one person to another. When your partner is aroused you start becoming horny too. That love-hate situation you were in earlier with you partner because he forgot your anniversary intensified the love making it fertile ground for arousal, thus the uninhibited and fierce sex you’ve ever had in a long time.